Extra effort

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So, I have a colleague that likes to take the extra effort to prove herself correct.

Well, “correct” is actually subjective in this case because there are always different ways to go about things in software. Another one of those weird cliche sayings, “There’s more than one way to skin a cat.”

Anyway, she didn’t like that someone other than her had found another way in the software to do something we all thought wasn’t possible at first. She found the first solution and she crowed loudly. As we began to dig in, another colleague and I found another way to do it and when we brought that to the attention of everyone on the team she protested that it wasn’t a viable way to do it.

Well, she now has spent all weekend (unpaid time) to prove that she was correct, to a degree. That her method was the bet way and there really shouldn’t be any other method used.

OK, whatever.

I’m not going to get into it. You can have your silly little victory, but we all know there is more than one way to do it. My ego isn’t that big that I have to be right.

Anyone else have a co-worker that is like this? Has to be right at all costs, doesn’t like it when you show them there are alternative ways to do things?

Listen

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It really sucks to see stuff happen to people.

But then again, there’s a reason the phrase “I told you so” often comes up in conversations after the fact. So, maybe it doesn’t suck. Dare I say it’s deserved?

It’s weird, isn’t it? How someone may (or may not have) ask for advice and you give it, and they ignore it. Then, almost as predictable as a fat kid near cake, what you predicted would happen happens and the only thing you can do is shake your head and bit your tongue as you think, “I told you so.”

When you ask someone with more life experience and they give you advice I would recommend you listen. Don’t just ask because you think it is the right thing to do or because you are looking for confirmation on the answer you want to hear. And if you don’t hear the answer you are looking for, certainly don’t go charging into the *insert problem/issue/dilemma/etc. here* without some serious other considerations. Ask more people. Sleep on it. Consider other options. Change course and see if something else will happen or something better comes about.

I hate being right.

No, actually, I don’t. I like being right.

Call me a jerk, if you want. But deep down, I know you like it too. And, secretly, we all like to be vindicated when we give advice and someone ignores it.

Are we bad people? No.

Should we celebrate in it? No. But we can secretly break our own arms patting ourselves on the back…go ahead and do it.

Feels nice, right?

At least that is better than sitting in public, pointing, and laughing. Of course, there may be a place for that too. But that’s a topic for another day.