Backing out

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A few years ago I startedd playing disc golf as a way to get outta the house and do some walking. It was right before the global flu took hold so I played right through it. It’s now been a couple years and the buddy that I get out on the course with has now invited a couple other guys to join us and learn the game too. I like them all and generally have no complaints about them.

That aside, one of the guys that is now included in the group is getting the reputation for backing out and it’s rather annoying.

He is invited to hang out on the course with us or he even initiates and invites us to hang out with him to play. Plans are typically set to meet at a time and course and people are looking forward to it.

Then he backs out.

He usually uses the excuse that he worked all day and is too tired. OK, I get it and an ocassional instance would be one thing. We all work and obviously that can be a deciding factor but out of 10 invites he uses this as an excuse six times. If you are tired or think it will be a deciding factor for you, don’t say your are going to go. Just don’t commit.

Sometimes he uses his small child and even his wife as an excuse to back out. Again, this is understandable, but again it can also be something that can be decided before committing to meet.

Anyway, what would you do? Keep inviting or accepting invites knowing he most likely will not follow through, or do you drop him and not invite him any longer?

Enthused?

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Enthusiastic. Enthusiasm. Enthused.

Something that I am “less than” of.

OK, that last sentence is admittedly weird. But, maybe you got the point. There are things and people in my life that I am having a hard time getting enthused about or having any enthusiasm over. I am just feeling…blah…

Someone earlier in the week suggested meeting up. Nah. I’m fine. Didn’t feel any enthusiasm at the prospect.

Someone is visiting this weekend. Not all that enthused about it. I should be, since I haven’t seen the person since March and he’s my best friend in the world. But, I am just kind of…blah…

Is something wrong with me? Am I just going through a phase? Could it just be that I am so tired of people that relationships of any kind are just not worth the effort or excitement?

Anyone else experiencing this loss of enthusiasm over things they normally would feel enthused and energized by? If so, can you pin-point why you don’t feel the way you normally would?

If you need me, I’ll be over here the corner, not being enthusiastic about anything.

Holiday PSA

Happy July 4th everyone! Or, Happy Independence Day! Or, Happy Birthday, America!

Or whatever.

I doubt many of you will read this today since you’ll all likely be partying hard and enjoying bbq’d food, liquid hops, and exploding stuff. But just in case you happen to stop by and take a look today, I have one request.

Can you turn off your fireworks promptly at midnight?

Fireworks and Independence Day are technically reserved for July 4 and at midnight (12am) it is no longer the 4th, so you need to stop celebrating then. OK?

Thanks,

This Old Guy

Friendship tests

green friends text

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Anyone else tired of those things going around on social media, or real life, that try to prompt people into a response?

You know, the one that says read this all, copy  & paste this, and then I’ll return the favor? Or, the one that says I am cleaning out my “friends” list so unless you comment something I’ll likely delete you? This one is great…I am trying to see which of my friends is paying attention…or, copy and past this obvious phishing scam answer skimmer test so we can play a game together and learn more about each other.

Desperate attempts at attention much?

OK, so social media has allowed us all to be voyeurs in each other’s lives (or at least the “best parts” of it) when we allow others to see it.

But what about those friends/acquaintances that probe your friendship by popping in and out of the picture to see if you’re still there? Like that friend from high school or college that randomly messages/texts you to see what you’re up to but you think might secretly have an agenda? Or that friend you only hear from once every 6-8 months, checking in saying, “Hey, we should get together and hang out” but then never follow through. Better yet, how about the one that will get back in touch and act like your best friend for a short time, reconnecting like no time has passed and it was only yesterday that you stopped seeing each other, only to disappear a few weeks later?

I can see you nodding your head…I see you have people like that in your life too…

Hey, wanna be friends? LOL