Stepping back

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So, there was a pissing match and I didn’t want any part of it.

Turns out that the extra effort to prove me wrong wasn’t just about proving me wrong but to vindicate herself to another teammate too. As a result, a pissing match and tension.

I just decided to step back and not play along.

You can do your thing and the other can do their thing…but tell me what I m supposed to do to help clients when the info wasn’t readily available nor was it clear that there was much more involved than simply running a report on the data.

The problem with pissing matches is that everyone gets burned.

Weird play on words, but it’s true.

Have you stepped into something recently only to realize you best step back rather than get into the middle of it?

Extra effort

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So, I have a colleague that likes to take the extra effort to prove herself correct.

Well, “correct” is actually subjective in this case because there are always different ways to go about things in software. Another one of those weird cliche sayings, “There’s more than one way to skin a cat.”

Anyway, she didn’t like that someone other than her had found another way in the software to do something we all thought wasn’t possible at first. She found the first solution and she crowed loudly. As we began to dig in, another colleague and I found another way to do it and when we brought that to the attention of everyone on the team she protested that it wasn’t a viable way to do it.

Well, she now has spent all weekend (unpaid time) to prove that she was correct, to a degree. That her method was the bet way and there really shouldn’t be any other method used.

OK, whatever.

I’m not going to get into it. You can have your silly little victory, but we all know there is more than one way to do it. My ego isn’t that big that I have to be right.

Anyone else have a co-worker that is like this? Has to be right at all costs, doesn’t like it when you show them there are alternative ways to do things?

Throw the flag!

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Alright football fans, do you ever find yourself yelling this at the TV (or if you’re lucky to attend the game, at the actual refs)?

What if there were penalty flags in real life? Wouldn’t that be great if there was a way to immediately have feedback from a random third party that could “throw the flag” as a penalty when someone wrongs you?

Cut you off in traffic? PENALTY FLAG! Move back three cars.

Rudely interrupts a conversation at a restaurant? PENALTY FLAG! They pay for my dinner.

Neighbor’s dog craps in the yard and they don’t clean it up? PENALTY FLAG! They have to mow my lawn for a month.

Someone in the house eatsĀ your leftovers? PENALTY FLAG! They have to cook every night for a week.

What do you think? Could you go for this? What are some places you’d love to have someone “throw the flag” in your life? (or, if you’re brave, maybe places you DON’T want a flag thrown!)