Why do I feel like we are constantly responsible for bailing out the adult children? Good grief, it is never ending.
“Can we borrow the car?”
“Can we live with you?”
“Can you watch the kids?”
“Can we use the house?”
“We need help…”
“The kids need…”
“Can you help us find…”
“Can we do laundry at your house?”
“Can you keep this in your big freezer?”
“The car broke down again…”
“Will you co-sign with us?”
Choices. It all has to do with choices and theirs are continually poor. Much of it stemming from the fact that they rarely think about the future. Vision for the future and putting in a little thought about consequences and what might happen if…thus, the lack of forethought constantly has them stamping out fires of their own creation and never allowing them to head in the right direction.
Once again, we are being asked about borrowing a vehicle and providing a place for them to hang out while they have appointments in town. They are the ones that chose to move over an hour out of town (“We like living in the country”). They are the ones that made poor financial choices and only have one running vehicle, which also happens to be providing the only manner of income at the moment. They are the ones that have chosen to have four children on little to no income (supposedly the last two were unplanned, but we know better…).
These adult step-children are killing me. They know they are the source of friction in my home and yet they do nothing to help. It is a constant stream of needs, wants, and demands (or at least putting us in a position where it feels like a demand, leaving us with little choice).
The problem is, when I try to mitigate the help and limit the aid, it comes back to bite me in the ass. The wrath and second guessing in the household becomes palpable. Winter inside, and outside the house.
Yeah, good times…
Here we go again…
You’ve got two options…1. Fall in line with your wife (they are her kids, yes?) and continue on said path or 2. Divorce. I’ve been reading over time your situation. It hasn’t improved nor will it.
Sounds like they are products of the American education system (which prefers teaching communism & gender confusion than mathematics, REAL history, finance and how to cook) and bad parenting. All of this makes for interesting blog posts, tho…
Like anything, the strife ebbs and flows. It gets better for a while and then it doesn’t. Options have been considered and then dropped. On the surface, a viable solution has nuances that complicate each variable at the next level. There may be only solution to this whole thing…that is a different D-word. LOL