You ever feel like you are under-appreciated?
We just passed a holiday of sorts – Father’s Day.
I remembered my dads. I have three (dad and two FILs). It’s an easy thing to do, right? Talk to one, remember the others. Acknowledge them, appreciate them, take time out of your day to help them feel special for a moment. Doesn’t take a long time, but it is important.
Now, background here…I married into a lot of kids the second time around. Most of them adults by the time they came into my life. So now, including spouses of the kids who are married, there are eight.
Could of days ago, I heard from three.
That’s it. Three.
Didn’t hear a peep from 5 of the 8. There haven’t even been any “after the fact” acknowledgements either.
So, now full disclosure, you know the source of a LOT of the Piss and Moan material.
I try to deny the fact and ignore it, but there just isn’t any denying it.
Look, I realize they have another dad. I haven’t ever expected to be the top of the list. But at the very least acknowledged? Yes.
I am not looking for anything fancy, lord knows that most of them can’t afford crap (see other, numerous, posts about adult children living in our house or on our property). But it doesn’t take much to make someone feel appreciated, right?
Is it wrong for me to feel this way?
Honestly, you can’t take it personally. They were/are adult step-children. Plus, today’s Millennials and Gen Zs are all about themselves…and that is no reflection on you. You didn’t raise them.
It’s hard to do. I know deep down it won’t ever be how it “should” be. I try not to dwell on it but there are times where that is more difficult.